A little Christmas note from me

Just a quick Christmas note from me.

I hope the next few days bring you some combination of warmth, good food, good people… and at least one moment where your whole system properly exhales.

And if Christmas is a bit mixed this year — tender, messy, lonely, triggering, “fine but not fine”… you’re not doing it wrong. It’s just a very loaded time of year.

There’s one thing I’ve been reminded of again and again through 2025, both personally and in my work:

Most people aren’t stuck because they’re lazy, broken, or failing.

They’re stuck because a part of them is trying very hard to stay safe.

So the overthinking isn’t “you being ridiculous” — it’s a protection strategy.

The procrastination isn’t a character flaw — it’s often overwhelm.

The symptoms, the shut-down, the irritability, the pulling away… same story.

Not always helpful strategies. But usually understandable ones.

And when you start seeing it that way, something loosens.

The self-judgement drops a notch.

You stop fighting yourself quite so hard.

And it becomes much easier to work with what’s actually going on, rather than arguing with it.

If you take one thing into 2026, maybe it could be this:

You don’t need to “fix yourself” as much as you need to understand what your system has been trying to do for you.

In 2026 I’ll be sharing some new ways of shining a light on those patterns — clearer maps, simpler practices, and some fresh resources that make change feel less like effort and more like alignment.

I’ll say more in the New Year.

For now: thank you for being here — for reading, reflecting, and doing your own work (even when nobody else can see it).

Wishing you a peaceful Christmas.

Warmly,
Kyle

P.S. If you feel like replying with one line: what’s one thing you’ve learned about yourself this year?